About half of Americans are married.
And many of them can attest that after a while, their sex life just isn’t what it used to be. Although familiarity can breed contempt, as the old saying goes, that isn’t the only reason married sex because difficult.
Often, there are too many commitments between work and children that make married sex less of a priority.
In this article, we’ll give you a few tried and test tips to spice up married sex.
1. Schedule Sex
Okay, this sounds super unromantic. But it doesn’t have to be.
As we mentioned above, one reason married sex often falls by the wayside is because it just isn’t a priority. When you have so many other things happening in your lives, it’s absolutely understandable. But don’t let it completely die.
Carve out time that’s just for the two of you. Know that this is your time to be intimate and make it free from distractions. Turn off the cell phones and make sure the kids are in bed and go at it.
2. Learn New Positions
Always having sex in the same old boring ways? Then learn a new position or two. After all, you’re never too old to learn a new trick.
Read up online about some of the different positions you haven’t tried, and get crazy. Even if you can’t execute them perfectly, it’s still a way to have a good time together and bond in an intimate way. In the end, you’ll have both an anecdote and hopefully some good sex.
3. Spice Up Married Sex and Explore Some Fantasies
Has your husband ever wanted to visit a strip club? Have you toyed with the idea of having a threesome? Do you want your partner to dress up in the bedroom?
If so, try it out. Get experimental. When you first got with your spouse, no doubt you were trying out new things all of the time. Being married a long time shouldn’t be an excuse to let that part of your relationship die.
So get cracking and try something you’ve never done before. After all, you can’t knock it until you’ve tried it!
4. Watch Porn Together
Some couples aren’t into porn, and that’s totally fine. There are some rational reasons why some individuals avoid it. But if you’re not morally opposed to it, watch some porn together.
Show each other clips of things you’ve fantasized about or clips of some really steamy scenes. Most often, this will get you in the mood to compete with the actors on your own.
You might even find some inspiration and new positions while exploring the films.
5. See a Sex Therapist
If things seem as though they won’t ever change or you can’t get inventive enough to make your sex life not boring, try seeing a sex therapist. He or she can help you pinpoint what exactly the issue is in your sex life that’s holding you back.
Keeping the Spark Alive
Everyone in a long marriage will need some tips on how to spice up married sex. Don’t make the mistake in thinking that boredom means your relationship is doomed. It isn’t, you’re just moving into a different phase of life. Use it to your advantage and bring back the wild side of your relationship you had during your first few months of having sex with one another.
Struggling with getting into the mood? Read our 9 top tips here.
